FALLING OR FAILING IN LOVE

May 5, 2012 at 1:47 pm 9 comments

What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don’t know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can’t be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature – the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn’t that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

Lust is clearly not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side AND you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one anothers happiness. Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but merely a pale copy. Love is the total surrender of your heart to another person with the security of knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel good. It should not feel bad. Love should make you want to be a better person, it should not lead you to do something self destructive. Love is not demanding of your spirit but lifts it and makes it glow. Love is a good thing. Anything less is lust, deep friendship or attraction. So the sappiness aside, the question remains, how can you tell you are in love?

 

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9 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Zen  |  May 6, 2012 at 2:14 am

    Love has so many definitions. It depends on how one percepts love. But what I know is, everyone looks for one. Nice post ha, may pinaghuhugutan ba ito? hehe. πŸ™‚

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    • 2. akoposileipot  |  May 6, 2012 at 11:48 pm

      ahihi wala naman po. just random thoughts ^_^

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      • 3. Zen  |  May 7, 2012 at 1:24 am

        Ahehe.. nice random thoughts.. hehe πŸ™‚

      • 4. akoposileipot  |  May 7, 2012 at 1:26 pm

        hihi thanks ate Zen. kaw ung Teacher diba? ahihi

      • 5. Zen  |  May 11, 2012 at 10:56 am

        Yes, I am.. hehe.. πŸ™‚

      • 6. akoposileipot  |  May 13, 2012 at 10:14 am

        ikaw ata ung late na dumating nung SBA? haha tama ba ahihihi

      • 7. Zen  |  May 14, 2012 at 12:19 am

        Yes, ako nga po yun.. πŸ™‚

  • 8. Manul-nulat ng Bayan  |  May 6, 2012 at 10:10 am

    tungkol sa last Question,para sa akin…..that’s unanswerable…hehehe

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    • 9. akoposileipot  |  May 6, 2012 at 11:50 pm

      ^___^ ganun po ba? hehehe thanks sa sagot ahihihi

      Reply

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